If I talk to
my children about what is right and what is wrong, but have not love, I am like
a ringing doorbell or pots banging in the kitchen.
And though I
know what stages they will go through, and understand their growing pains, and
can answer all their questions about life, and believe myself to be a devoted
mother, but have not love, I am nothing.
If I give up
the fulfillment of a career to make my children’s lives better, and stay up all
night sewing costumes or baking cookies on short notice, but grumble about lack
of sleep, I have not love and accomplish nothing.
A loving
mother is patient with her children’s immaturity and kind even when they are
not;
A loving
mother is not jealous of their youth nor does she hold it over their heads whenever
she has sacrificed for them.
A loving
mother does not push her children into doing things her way.
She is not
irritable, when the chicken pox have kept her confined with [four] whining children for two weeks, and does not resent
the child who brought the affliction home in the first place.
A loving
mother is not relieved when her disagreeable child finally disobeys her directly
and she can punish him, but rather rejoices with him when he is being more
cooperative.
A loving
mother bears much of the responsibility for her children; she believes in them;
she hopes in each one’s individual ability to stand out as a light in a dark
world; she endures every backache and heartache to accomplish that.
A loving
mother never really dies.
As for home
baked bread, it will be consumed and forgotten; as for spotless floors, they will
soon gather dust and heel marks.
And as for
children, well, right now toys, friends, and food, are all-important to
them.
But when
they grow up it will have been how their mother loved them that will determine
how they love others. In that way she
will love.
So care, training,
and a loving mother reside in a home, these three, but the greatest of these is
a loving mother.
Written by:
Dianne Lorang, Keep the Fire Glowing
(Revel
Company, 1986, pp. 152-153)